Sunday School Lesson Plan- Respect, Perseverance

Free printable sunday school lesson plan that teaches respect in friendship and perseverance

Story-based lesson plan for grades Kindergarten, 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th grades.
Character traits themes: respect, forgiveness, perseverance

Sunday School Lesson Objective

Students will understand the following:

  • Even when feelings are hurt, we need to treat friends with respect.
  • Talking about an issue is more effective than getting even. (Conflict resolution tips.)
  • Doing the right thing is better than doing the easy thing.

Grade Level

Grades Kindergarten, 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th grade

Supporting Sunday School Bible Verses

  • In your anger do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent. – Psalm 4:4
  • A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control. – Proverbs 9:11
  • I can do everything through Him who gives me strength. – Philippians 4:13



Respect- caring enough about others’ feelings to think before you act.

Relational aggression bullying- (A form of bullying in which hurt is caused through damage to relationships or social status.) When you leave someone out of the group or an activity because you want them to feel bad.

Also see "What is Respect" definition with examples.


Read Be Bigger character trait book (paper book or project the iPad/iPod ebook on a whiteboard).

On each page, focus on the characters’ facial expressions and body language.

How is each character feeling on each page? Help the children see how they can pay attention to faces and body language to help them understand how others are feeling (to help prevent misunderstandings), and how they themselves are feeling (to better understand where their actions are coming from).

Discuss hurt feelings and how to react to them.

Talk about how the girl was feeling at the beginning of the book.

-Why was she upset? (She felt left out and her feelings were hurt.)

-What did the tree mean by "your heart and stomach are tied up in knots”? (Teach children to pay attention to the cues their body gives them to help them figure out if they are sad, anxious, angry, etc.)

-Why did the tree say the girl was planning to get even with her friend? What does "getting even” really mean? (You perceive that someone hurt you and so you hurt them in return.) Does getting even take away your hurt? (No, it just makes both of you feel bad.)

Discuss issues around respect and relational aggression bullying.

In the story about the girl’s grandmother, we see the girls each call on their other friends to exclude someone in order cause hurt (relational aggression bullying).

This is an issue of respect and caring. Being respectful means you care enough about others’ feelings not to cause harm. In this case the girls are trying to hurt each other on purpose. Friends don’t do that. Respectful people don’t do that. Even when feelings are hurt, we need to deal with the issue respectfully (caring enough not to cause harm.)

Discuss another way the girl could deal with her hurt feelings.

The tree shows her how to "Be Bigger” than the hurt feelings (how to rise above the hurt to deal with the issue respectfully.)

A more effective way to deal with hurt feelings is:

1. Figure out what you really want. (your friend to apologize, your feelings not to hurt)

2. Choose an action that helps you get what you really want. (Talk to your friend to let her know she hurt your feelings. Talk through the issues respectfully. Focus on how you are feeling instead of being accusatory.)

Help children see making a right choice feels good in the long term.

The tree says, "There’s the easy way, and there’s the right way. If you want the ache in your heart to stop, choose the right way.”

Ask the students, "Which was the easy way out of this situation? Which was the right way?” (Easy way was pretending nothing happened or keeping on the way she had been. The right solution was to face her embarrassment / discomfort and have the conversation with her friend.)

Why not take the easy way? The easy way feels better for a little while, but the problem isn’t resolved. The hurt in the girl’s heart is still there and it will be until she talks to her friend. The right way (facing her friend) was harder at first, but it would get her to resolution (no more heartache) faster. (Supporting bible verse: I can do everything through Him who gives me strength. – Philippians 4:13)

Discuss some other situations in which people might face a choice of an easy way or right way.

Life is full of choices where doing the right thing is more difficult, but the long term reward is worth it. Pose some questions that help children understand this:

"What if you borrowed your friend’s toy and accidentally broke it. You don’t want to tell him the truth and you think it would be easier to pretend that you just forgot it and will give it back another day.”

"What if you and your friend were doing homework and it was easier to just copy your friend’s math answers than to solve the problems yourself. What will happen when the math test comes and you don’t know how to solve those problems?

Teach it is ok to make mistakes and that we use these opportunities to grow.

Use the story about the girl’s grandmother to help children see that everyone makes mistakes. It’s part of growing up. By making the situation right and learning not to make the same choice next time, we are growing to be more responsible adults. Learning to forgive yourself for mistakes is important to building self-respect. Focus on learning and growing, and releasing the guilt/shame. Teach children to enjoy the feeling (pride) they get after doing the right thing.

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